No More Self-Care

No More Self-Care

“We cannot give to others unless we fill ourselves up first.”

“It is important to take care of yourself first so you can take care of others.” defines self-care as “taking care of yourself so you can stay healthy and accomplish all the things you need and want to.”

This buzzword “self-care” has steadily increased over the last few years, and I understand the reasoning: as moms, for instance, we constantly pour ourselves out to our children and husbands, to coworkers, bosses, etc. But the two quotes above can be dangerous if we don’t look at it the right way.

Self-care is often thought of as activities to “fill yourself” with joy, like yoga, hot baths with all the bath bombs (well-played marketing gurus), long walks, manis and pedis . . . the list goes on. But here’s the thing:


Unless we are filling ourselves with the Word of God, we will always feel empty, depleted, exhausted.

It will always be a never-ending cycle of trying to fill a void with earthly pleasures but always coming up empty.

God is the ONLY way to true, everlasting joy, peace and contentment.

I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in Him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit. (Romans 15:13)

Trusting our Sovereign God – knowing that He is in control – leads to a life full of joy and peace. 

Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice! (Philippians 4:4)

The only source of true everlasting happiness is found in the Lord. 

“These things have I spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full.” (John 15:11)

When we ask for forgiveness of our sins and truly repent, believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross for us and took our punishment for sin, we are given the Holy Spirit who dwells in us, which results in true peace and joy.

The commandments of the Lord are right, bringing joy to the heart. 
The commands of the Lord are clear, giving insight for living. (Psalm 19:8)

If we are not reading God’s Word, we are ignorant in the way we are to be living. God has given us a clear standard of living that will bring joy and goodness to our lives. But how do we know if we aren’t actively reading His Word?

“We cannot give to others unless we fill ourselves up first” . . . It is better to say, “We cannot give to others unless we fill ourselves up with God first.” Take care of yourself by reading the Bible, which will flow out to others as well. 

Oh, the joys of those who do not
    follow the advice of the wicked,
    or stand around with sinners,
    or join in with mockers.
But they delight in the law of the Lord,
    meditating on it day and night.

They are like trees planted along the riverbank,
    bearing fruit each season.
Their leaves never wither,
    and they prosper in all they do. (Psalm 1:1-3)

As mothers, we are to be selfless – caring for our children and their needs. God gave us these babies to raise on this earth – they are His children, entrusted to us for the time being. They are helpless sinners that need a Savior, but they also need our guidance. They need food, love and care. They need our time. They need our attention. Taking care of our kids is not the problem: the problem is we aren’t living the way God’s Word tells us. We are not living each day by His standards, His way. Instead, we take the bull by the horns and plow our own path, which will only lead to destruction.

If you cling to your life, you will lose it, and if you let your life go, you will save it. (Luke 17:33)

The only way to find life is to find it through God. Life everlasting is only found through Jesus Christ. 

Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through Me. (John 14:6)

Mommas, hold your babies close and let the Word of God pour from your heart and mouth, but you can’t pour out His truth if you don’t know it yourself. Find real self-care by reading the Bible. Then you will truly be filled.

Friday Favorites: Beauty Care Edition!

Friday Favorites: Beauty Care Edition!

I asked you all in my stories what you wanted to see for my next Friday Favorites and the overwhelming landslide was ‘A’! So today I am sharing my favorite bath/beauty care items, from shampoo and conditioner, to makeup, skincare..all the bath related items!

So let’s jump right on in…to my shower!


In my shower you will find an ASSORTMENT of shampoo and conditioners! I like to mix it up and change my shampoo and conditioner every few times. So here are the ones in the rotation currently:

I am LOVING Amika sooooo sooo much! My amazing hairdresser, Kortnee, has me obsessed! I just bought the orange ones for everyday use and the purple ones are for brighting up the blonde and getting rid of any brass undertones.

I still use my Kenra shampoo occasionally but it has taken a backseat to Amika.

Another brand that I love for my kids is this Love Beauty and Planet shampoo and conditioner. It smells incredible and I like their mission and purpose.

While we are talking hair, these are the products I use out of the shower:

My love with Amika continues with their Supernova Blonde Violet Moisture and Shine Cream, but I only use it occasionally because it does neutralize the brass and I don’t need to do that daily. So for daily use, I use the Kenra Platinum Luxe One Leave-In Miracle Spray followed by the Kenra Frizz Control Primer (which I cannot find online anywhere so check with your hair stylist). I definitely notice a difference when styling if I use these or not.

And then every couple of week I use this Olaplex No. 3 for repairing and moisturizing. This stuff is incredible! This at-home treatment makes a HUGE difference on my color-treated hair!

Now let’s hop back in to the shower…my favorite body wash for myself is another Love Beauty and Planet brand item.

This body wash smells divine and makes my skin super soft. It only takes a little bit and lathers up so well.

I love this one as well and my boys use it daily!

Before we hop out of the bath area, I want to share my favorite items for my weekly bath. I try to take a detox bath once a week. Detox baths are a natural way to remove toxins from the body and replenish it with a good dose of magnesium and other beneficial minerals. For my detox bath, I first neutralize the water with baking soda, then fill it with Epsom salt, bentonite clay, coconut oil, and a couple drops of an essential oil of my liking. I’ll post soon more about detox baths and the exact measurements I use for myself and my kids!

I love this toothpaste! The boys use this one as well. I haven’t tried the cinnamon flavor yet…I just cant do that flavor for brushing. I like minty stuff. The boys may like it but I haven’t tried it yet for them. If you try it, let me know in the comments!!

I was using my body brush to help with the detoxifying process but haven’t used it in a few weeks. I bought a set very similar to this on Amazon and it is a nice brush set that has held up really well over the years.

The body lotion I use is this Alba Botanica one and I like this one over a lot of others I have tried. It is not greasy and it is clean brand, plus the size of the bottle for the price is great!

Well that is is for the bath area!

Let’s take a look at my favorite makeup that I am currently using and loving!


As you can see in the picture, I have hit pan on quite a few items!! I am not going to go into a lot of details for each item, because there are so many, but these are the items I use for daily full-makeup. When we go to the lake, I only use the All Good Tinted Sunscreen Butter, in addition to my regular sunscreen primer spray, and the Eco Lips Organic Pure & Simple Raspberry Lip Balm. I bought both at Sprouts but I found the tinted sunscreen at Target as well.

For full-makeup, I start with this primer, then I use my Tarte concealer for under eyes and dark spots.

I follow with the LORAC PRO Soft Focus Longer Foundation in the shade 08 and I am loving right now! It is a long-wearing, semi-matte foundation that goes on super easy and flawlessly.

Sometimes I set it all with this powder, but not always. I use Pacifica’s powder only when I am oily and need a touch up. I am in love with Honest Company’s highlighter…as you can tell by the picture! I use it also on my eyes. For blush, I got a free sample from a previous Ulta order, so I am currently using this NARS blush.

I am using LimeLife’s customazibale eye palette, Clinique’s liquid eyeliner, and Pacifica mascara. I just found this magnetic eyeliner/lash set that I am seriously mystified by and totally in love with! I will be purchasing some other lashes to go with it soon!

For lips, LimeLife’s Enduring Lip Color in Angel Food is my go-to! I recently tried Too Faced Tutti Fruitti lip gloss in Show Me Your Coconuts and at first wasn’t sure, but now I love it! I am wearing it here:

I am wearing my full-makeup look mentioned above in both of these photos, including the lashes (which next time I am getting slightly bolder ones!)


As far as skincare, I love the line that my esthetician, Holly Tanella, has put together for me. You can read all about it here.

I just started using her latest product, her OWN line (way to go Holly!) at Boho Med Spa, the YTH Serum (and it it currently 20% off!). I am using this both day and night and it is replacing my dark spot treatment serum as well as my vitamin c serum.

That’s it!!

Now one of the BEST beauty secrets is to make sure to include COLLAGEN in your daily routine. Collagen is the most abundant protein in the human body and functions like support pillars for your skin to keep it nice and smooth. It supports the health of your hair, joints, bones, and helps strengthen brittle fingernails. However, over time, your body produces less and less of it.

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There are 3 main reasons:


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Hope you all have a blessed weekend and I’ll see you back here on Monday!

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