No More Self-Care

“We cannot give to others unless we fill ourselves up first.”

“It is important to take care of yourself first so you can take care of others.” defines self-care as “taking care of yourself so you can stay healthy and accomplish all the things you need and want to.”

This buzzword “self-care” has steadily increased over the last few years, and I understand the reasoning: as moms, for instance, we constantly pour ourselves out to our children and husbands, to coworkers, bosses, etc. But the two quotes above can be dangerous if we don’t look at it the right way.

Self-care is often thought of as activities to “fill yourself” with joy, like yoga, hot baths with all the bath bombs (well-played marketing gurus), long walks, manis and pedis . . . the list goes on. But here’s the thing:


Unless we are filling ourselves with the Word of God, we will always feel empty, depleted, exhausted.

It will always be a never-ending cycle of trying to fill a void with earthly pleasures but always coming up empty.

God is the ONLY way to true, everlasting joy, peace and contentment.

I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in Him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit. (Romans 15:13)

Trusting our Sovereign God – knowing that He is in control – leads to a life full of joy and peace. 

Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice! (Philippians 4:4)

The only source of true everlasting happiness is found in the Lord. 

“These things have I spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full.” (John 15:11)

When we ask for forgiveness of our sins and truly repent, believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross for us and took our punishment for sin, we are given the Holy Spirit who dwells in us, which results in true peace and joy.

The commandments of the Lord are right, bringing joy to the heart. 
The commands of the Lord are clear, giving insight for living. (Psalm 19:8)

If we are not reading God’s Word, we are ignorant in the way we are to be living. God has given us a clear standard of living that will bring joy and goodness to our lives. But how do we know if we aren’t actively reading His Word?

“We cannot give to others unless we fill ourselves up first” . . . It is better to say, “We cannot give to others unless we fill ourselves up with God first.” Take care of yourself by reading the Bible, which will flow out to others as well. 

Oh, the joys of those who do not
    follow the advice of the wicked,
    or stand around with sinners,
    or join in with mockers.
But they delight in the law of the Lord,
    meditating on it day and night.

They are like trees planted along the riverbank,
    bearing fruit each season.
Their leaves never wither,
    and they prosper in all they do. (Psalm 1:1-3)

As mothers, we are to be selfless – caring for our children and their needs. God gave us these babies to raise on this earth – they are His children, entrusted to us for the time being. They are helpless sinners that need a Savior, but they also need our guidance. They need food, love and care. They need our time. They need our attention. Taking care of our kids is not the problem: the problem is we aren’t living the way God’s Word tells us. We are not living each day by His standards, His way. Instead, we take the bull by the horns and plow our own path, which will only lead to destruction.

If you cling to your life, you will lose it, and if you let your life go, you will save it. (Luke 17:33)

The only way to find life is to find it through God. Life everlasting is only found through Jesus Christ. 

Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through Me. (John 14:6)

Mommas, hold your babies close and let the Word of God pour from your heart and mouth, but you can’t pour out His truth if you don’t know it yourself. Find real self-care by reading the Bible. Then you will truly be filled.

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