Are you a Five? An Eight? A Three? A “I Have No Clue What You Are Talking About”? 😉
The Enneagram is a system of personality traits that describes a persons personality, emotions, and how they manage those traits and emotions in the world around them. If you are a fan of the Five Love Languages, then you will love the Enneagram. Much like the Five Love Languages, The Enneagram helps to understand yourself better and those around you. While the Five Love Languages focuses on how to best love someone and how they express their love (be it affirmation, gifts, etc) as well as how you show your love, the Enneagram looks more at how you are wired and your personality traits. The Enneagram is a great way to learn more about yourself, how you function, what your strengths and weaknesses are, and how to best relate with those around you.
God has created us all unique and one-of-a-kind. We have been wired with our own personalities the God has given us. By assessing your number on the Enneagram, you are able to work better with others, and unlock some insight into your own inner workings.
The Enneagram Institute describes the Enneagram as such:
“From one point of view, the Enneagram can be seen as a set of nine distinct personality types, with each number on the Enneagram denoting one type. It is common to find a little of yourself in all nine of the types, although one of them should stand out as being closest to yourself. This is your basic personality type. Everyone emerges from childhood with one of the nine types dominating their personality, with inborn temperament and other pre-natal factors being the main determinants of our type. This is one area where most all of the major Enneagram authors agree—we are born with a dominant type.”
Each number represents a “type” on the enneagram scale.
The Enneagram Institute states that “these one-word descriptors can be expanded into four-word sets of traits. Keep in mind that these are merely highlights and do not represent the full spectrum of each type.”
- Type One is principled, purposeful, self-controlled, and perfectionistic.
- Type Two is generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing, and possessive.
- Type Three is adaptable, excelling, driven, and image-conscious.
- Type Four is expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental.
- Type Five is perceptive, innovative, secretive, and isolated.
- Type Six is engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious.
- Type Seven is spontaneous, versatile, acquisitive, and scattered.
- Type Eight is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational.
- Type Nine is receptive, reassuring, complacent, and resigned.
But it doesn’t stop there!
Each person also has a “wing.” The Enneagram Institute states, “Everyone is a unique mixture of his or her basic type and usually one of the two types adjacent to it on the circumference of the Enneagram. One of the two types adjacent to your basic type is called your wing.”
So if you are mostly a Five, for example, read the qualities of a Four and a Six and determine which is more like you.
I took this free Enneagram test on Truity.com and here are my results:
As you can see, I am mostly a Two: The Helper, at a 98% match.
Type Two in Brief
The Enneagram Institute states that “Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs.”
A Two is afraid of being unwanted and feeling unworthy of being loved. Some key motivations for a Two is the desire to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to vindicate their claims about themselves, etc. If they are a Two with a One-Wing, they are the “Servant” and if a Two with a Three-Wing, “The Hostess.”
The Meaning of Two’s Arrows
4 & 8
The Enneagram Institute claims:
When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), needy Twos suddenly become aggressive and dominating at Eight. However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), prideful, self-deceptive Twos become more self-nurturing and emotionally aware, like healthy Fours.
While I was reading my results and more about my number though the Enneagram Institute, I stumbled on this section:
Abusing food and over-the-counter medications. Bingeing, especially on sweets and carbohydrates. Over-eating from feeling “love-starved;” in extreme cases bulimia.
WOW! If you haven’t read my brief story about my past health issues, I touch on it a bit here but in short, I was very abusive to my body as a teen/young adult. I struggled with over-exercising, binging and purging, took diet pills, laxatives, and extreme calorie restricting. All for the need to control (like a One and unhealthy Two) and seeking approval from others. I will expand on all of these issues and how I healed in a later post.
Type Two Wings
Now for the wing. I looked at both One and Three and I feel that I am really close to both, as you can see in my results above.
As a One-wing, I do have a “strong sense of right and wrong” and I get fired up when there is injustice. I like to be right (who doesn’t?!) and tend to justify myself as well as be perfectionistic in some areas.
As a Three-Wing, I have a bit of the ambitious quality as described, “competent, and energetic, Three’s can also be status-conscious and highly driven for advancement. They are diplomatic and poised, but can also be overly concerned with their image and what others think of them.”
If I had to pick just one of the wings, I think during this current season of my life, I lean more to the Three, even though I do have some of the qualities of a One.
I think of my weakness and one of the hardest things about being a Two is that I get easily frustrated when people don’t reach out to me like I do to them. If I let myself get in that headspace, I feel sad and disappointed…but it’s realizing that I am that way and not everyone is like a Two. All that to say…if someone you love is a Two, make sure to reach out to them occasionally and see how they are doing. 😉
It really is fascinating to see where I fall and how I can best grow and learn from my weaknesses as a Two and my Three-Wing and to move towards becoming a healthy Two!
What number are you? Feel free to share below!
If you want to learn more about the Enneagram, Jen Hatmaker’s current podcast series (Series 27) is all about it with each episode dedicated to a number! Check it out here!
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Till next time, friends!